What if I told you that transforming your life doesn’t require monumental effort, drastic sacrifices, or years of trial and error? What if the key to living with strength, vitality, and an unshakable sense of peace lies in three simple but life-changing choices?
These aren’t steps or stages, nor are they tied to any belief system or ritual. They are timeless principles, practical, and accessible to anyone willing to take charge of their life.
In an age where distractions, stress, and unhealthy habits dominate, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed. But imagine waking up each day with energy coursing through your body, clarity in your mind, and a conscience free of weight. That’s not just a possibility; it’s within your reach.
Curious to know more? Explore how three essential pillars can lead you to a healthier, stronger, and more peaceful you. The path is simpler than you think—and the destination is life-changing.
As we take a moment to reflect on our lives, let’s remind ourselves that a new year, whether it’s the Gregorian year or any other marker of time, by itself cannot do anything. It is our perception of things and our attitude towards life that truly influence our lives.
In my opinion, what we need to first strive for is clarity—clarity in the way we think, perceive, and judge. For this, some fundamental understanding of oneself and universal oneness is essential.
In our world, filled with numerous cults, groups, spiritual leaders and gurus, it is crucial to recognise the true qualities of divinity, which are honesty, sincerity, compassion, modesty, and gratitude. These virtues surpass any specific doctrine or tradition.
TThe Vedas, Upanishads, and the Srimad Bhagavad Gita are invaluable tools designed to guide individuals towards selflessness. However, although they make things easier for a seeker, they are not the only path to achieving a divine state. Many remarkable people who have never encountered these texts exhibit profound divinity, suggesting that true spirituality transcends any specific set of teachings.
In the Srimad Bhagavad Gita, Shloka 2:46, Krishna says that one who has attained SELF-realisation needs the Vedas as much as one would need a well when it is flooded everywhere. This illustrates that attaining supreme knowledge is the highest goal.
Everyone’s spiritual journey is unique. The purpose of Karma Yoga, or performing one’s duty without expecting results, is to maintain a balanced state of mind. Emotions such as happiness, sadness, anger, hatred, and envy are born from our perceptions. These emotions are merely waves in the otherwise tranquil ocean of awareness.
When we learn to perceive things differently, we can face and handle challenges better. However, the root causes of mental pain, sadness, and suffering are often attachments and our expectations.
The greatest lesson I have learned from life’s ups and downs is to never expect anything from anyone or life itself. Instead, relish every moment, knowing that anything can happen at any time. Being alive, healthy, sane, and conscious is a gift to be celebrated.
I think that feeling upset about things can also be seen as a form of arrogance or entitlement. It is because it overlooks the miracle of life happening with every heartbeat, which, by the way, can stop at any time.
BBy cultivating a profound understanding of this, we can achieve peace in any circumstance. Introspecting and recognising our fundamentally innate honest and sincere nature reveals the misguided notions arising from a lack of clarity, which obscure our divine true self. Challenging situations refine and polish us, leading to the highest clarity and the ultimate state of Krishna.
Please reflect on the following Shlokas from the Srimad Bhagavad Gita:
SBG 14:23 Krishna says: “He remains unattached and is not moved by sense objects. He knows that it is the senses and the mind born of the Gunas that act while his real Self remains unwavering in all situations.”
SBG 14:24 “He is the same in pleasure as well as in pain; is established in the Self; he is one to whom a lump of earth, a stone and gold are no different from each other; he treats equally the friendly and the unfriendly, and accepts praise or criticism with equanimity.”
SBG 14:25 “He who remains unmoved in honour and dishonour; is the same to friend and foe, and has renounced all actions by giving up claims of being the ‘Doer’, is said to have transcended the three Gunas.”
SBG 14:26 “He who serves Me with unflinching devotion and transcends the Gunas, is fit for becoming Brahman.”
SBG 14:27 “For I am the abode of the formless Brahman, the imperishable and the immutable, of eternal Dharma and of absolute bliss.”
Reflect on these teachings to find peace and equanimity in your spiritual journey. Once such clarity has been achieved, every new day can be celebrated as the first day of the rest of your life, without waiting for any calendar to announce and validate it.
As we embark on our own journeys, let us seek the fruits of the Tree of Abundance. This metaphorical tree, rooted in the fertile soil of knowledge and wisdom, offers us an endless bounty. From its branches hang the fruits of health, prosperity, and happiness, each one a result of the nurturing power of understanding and insight. When we cultivate our minds with learning and awareness, we gain the true wealth that life has to offer. May the Tree of Abundance bless you with its riches, nourishing every aspect of your life and guiding you towards a future filled with endless possibilities.
Please remember that if you continue to be what you have always been and do what you have always done, your life will continue to be how it has always been. Different results need different inputs. It all starts with knowledge. It is usually through the transformative power of knowledge that one can plant the seeds of change and harvest a future abundant with new possibilities.
The Harmful Effects of Anger: Understanding Its Life Cycle and the Path to Peace
Mark Twain once said, “Anger is an acid that can do more harm to the vessel in which it is stored than to anything on which it is poured.” Anger never solves any problem or worry; rather, it makes us more stressed. It starts controlling our emotions and intelligence, and eventually leads us to self destruction.
To comprehend the full extent of anger’s impact, it’s essential to understand its life cycle. Anger often begins with attachment, a sense of entitlement, or envy. This metamorphosis is eloquently described in the Srimad Bhagavad Gita, Shlokas SBG 2:62-63:
Srimad Bhagavad Gita: 2:62-63 “A person who thinks of sense objects develops an attachment for them. From this attachment, desires are born and from desires, anger is born. Anger gives birth to delusion and this delusion results in confusion of memory. When memory is confused, intelligence is destroyed, and from the destruction of intelligence, the person perishes.”
SBG 2:62-63
The Metamorphosis of Anger
Attachment: It all begins with the mind dwelling on sense objects. When we repeatedly think about something, we develop an attachment to it.
Desire: From attachment arises desire—the longing to possess or achieve what we are attached to.
Anger: When our desires are unfulfilled or obstructed, anger arises. This anger can be towards oneself, others, or circumstances.
Delusion: Anger clouds our judgment, leading to delusion. We start seeing things in a distorted manner, unable to perceive reality accurately.
Confusion of Memory: Delusion confuses our memory. We forget our principles, values, and past experiences that guide us in making rational decisions.
Destruction of Intelligence: With a confused memory, our intelligence, the ability to reason and discriminate, is destroyed.
Perdition: The final stage is the total destruction of the person. A life led by anger is a life of turmoil, leading to self-destruction.
The Solution: Vedanta
Vedanta offers a profound solution to the problem of anger and other mental afflictions. The Srimad Bhagavad Gita, a cornerstone of Vedanta, provides timeless wisdom to overcome anger and attain peace. By understanding and applying its teachings, we can transform our lives.
The Srimad Bhagavad Gita is the panacea for all mental problems, fears, worries, and confusions that stem from a lack of clarity or emotional thinking. It guides us to live a life of balance, understanding, and inner peace.
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Have you ever felt trapped in a cycle of negativity, brooding over past traumas, and struggling to find a way out? You’re not alone. Many people fall into the habit of self-pity, which can be a powerful and destructive force.
In my latest video, I share the two simple yet profound mantras that have helped me break free from the shadows of my past and step confidently into a brighter future. These mantras have been my guiding light, empowering me to overcome challenges and embrace a life full of possibilities.
Curious to learn more? Watch the video to discover how “So What?” and “What Next?” can transform your life too.
Please watch this short video, and then read the post below, or listen to the audio.
Evolution is the natural order of life. Just as a pupa transforms into a beautiful butterfly, everything in nature is in a constant state of change and growth. This transformation is not just necessary but inevitable, driven by the forces of nature to improve, adapt, and thrive.
However, some choose to resist this natural process, clinging to outdated ways of thinking, strange beliefs in the name of religion, lost positions or property, former relationships, and old ways of being. This resistance is a denial of life’s fundamental principle—growth. By refusing to evolve, they remain stagnant, living in a state of delusion. In doing so, they waste the precious resources that nature provides, occupying space without contributing to the flow of progress.
Just as the butterfly’s emergence from its chrysalis is a testament to the power of transformation, so too should we embrace our own potential for growth. To resist evolution is to deny the very essence of life. By choosing to evolve, we not only fulfil our purpose but also honour the natural world that supports us.
In our culture, age often comes with preconceived notions and limitations. However, the concept that age is merely a number, challenges these views, highlighting that vitality and well-being are not solely defined by how many years we’ve lived.
Think of your body as a vehicle. Just as a car requires regular maintenance to function optimally, our bodies need consistent care to stay in peak condition. This involves more than just physical fitness—it encompasses a balanced diet, mental wellness, and a positive outlook on life.
Prioritising health and fitness ensures that our ‘vehicle’ runs smoothly and efficiently, allowing us to live fully and energetically. It’s not about our chronological age but about how we maintain our health and approach life’s challenges.
Adopting this perspective means recognising that it’s never too late to improve your health. Whether you’re in your 30s, 50s, or beyond, making positive lifestyle changes can lead to a more vibrant and fulfilling life.
I got my son interested in fitness when he was in his early teens, and now that he’s turned 20, it’s clear that he’s been bitten by the fitness bug. It’s truly wonderful to see a young person, whether male or female, building their physique early in life.
For Indians, this can be especially important, as we often have a disadvantage compared to some other races when it comes to building muscle easily. And when I say muscle, I’m not talking about the kind of bulk a bodybuilder might have—I mean the muscle strength that everyone needs, regardless of age.
The best approach is to start early in life, but if you haven’t, make it a top priority and start today. Consult a fitness coach or find guidance online, and follow through with dedication.
Ultimately, our well-being is shaped by our choices and attitudes, not just the passage of time. By focusing on self-care and embracing a proactive approach to health, we can enjoy a dynamic and enriching life, no matter our age.
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Many of us find ourselves stuck in a cycle of complaining, brooding, and feeling generally dissatisfied with our circumstances. Whether it’s our job, relationships, or personal achievements, the tendency to ruminate on what’s wrong can be overwhelming. And yet, despite the temporary relief we might find in venting to a friend or relative, we often wake up the next day only to repeat the same routine, with nothing having changed. The question then arises: how can we expect change when we continue to do the same thing?
The Unproductive Cycle of Complaints
Complaining and brooding are natural human responses to dissatisfaction. It’s almost instinctual to express our frustrations when things don’t go as planned. However, these actions rarely lead to meaningful change. Instead, they often serve as a temporary release, a way to momentarily ease the pressure without addressing the underlying issues. As a result, we remain stuck in the same unfavourable situation, repeating the cycle day after day.
To break free from this cycle, it’s crucial to take a different approach—one rooted in clarity and action. The key lies in defining your problems and goals with precision. Let me take you back to my childhood to illustrate this point.
As a young boy, I was naturally curious and had a mechanical aptitude that drove me to understand how things worked. I was always eager to get to the bottom of things, refusing to accept anything at face value without clear evidence. When I was reprimanded by elders or teachers for my behaviour, I didn’t just accept the scolding. Instead, I wanted to know what I had done wrong and, more importantly, what I should do right. However, my requests for guidance were often met with silence or a cold stare, leaving me with unanswered questions.
This experience taught me a vital lesson: in any situation, if something is wrong, it’s essential to ask, “What is right?” This principle can be applied to any area of life:
If you’re dissatisfied with your job, ask: What is my ideal job?
If you don’t like your life, ask yourself: What would my ideal life look like?
If you’re unhappy in a relationship, ask: What is the ideal relationship I want?
The Three-Step Approach to Change
Once you’ve asked these questions, the next step is to define your situation clearly. Here’s a practical approach:
Identify What You Don’t Like and Why: Be specific about what bothers you. Is it the long hours at work, the lack of appreciation, or perhaps a feeling of being stuck? Understand the root cause of your dissatisfaction.
Create a Clear Vision of What You Want
: Visualise your ideal situation in detail. What does your perfect job look like? What qualities define your ideal relationship? Be as specific as possible, down to the finest details.
Develop a Plan to Achieve Your Vision
: Identify the steps you need to take to move from your current situation to your ideal one. This might involve learning new skills, making lifestyle changes, or even having difficult conversations. The key is to take actionable steps that lead you closer to your goal.
The Danger of Temporary Fixes
Many people, when faced with an unfavourable situation, seek quick fixes to ease their minds temporarily. Whether it’s pouring out your woes to a friend, closing your eyes and sitting under a tree or in a religious place, or even turning to substances, these methods offer only momentary relief. They don’t address the core issues and often lead to more frustration when the problem inevitably resurfaces.
Please always remember that if someone truly wants something, they will find a way to get it. Consider alcohol and substance addicts or those addicted to gambling—they always manage to obtain what they crave. If you feel you’ve been working hard with no improvement in your life, instead of adopting a victim or ‘poor me’ attitude, try to view it from another perspective. Perhaps your efforts are insufficient, misdirected, or lack proper direction.
Summing up and Learning to Take Control of Your Life
If you’re unhappy with your current situation, don’t waste time complaining or seeking temporary distractions. Instead, follow the steps I’ve outlined:
Define your issue clearly.
Visualise your ideal situation.
Take actionable steps to achieve your vision.
By doing so, you’ll find that you have the power to transform your life into something truly fulfilling. These steps may seem simple, but they are profoundly effective—I speak from experience.
Never forget that many people don’t know exactly what they want. Complaining and feeling depressed require less effort than reflecting and strategising, which is why slipping into self-pity is so easy. For anything good and positive to materialise, there must first be a clear image in the mind. So, the next time you feel the urge to complain or brood, make sure you know exactly what you want.
Real change begins with a clear definition of your goals and a commitment to taking action.
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After a decade away, I found myself standing once more in front of the house where I had lived until I was 11. This was the place where my sister and I used to walk to school, hand in hand, through green fields, joyfully crossing a small brook along the way. But as I stood there, I was struck by how different everything seemed. The street that once seemed so long and wide now appeared short and narrow. The house, which I remembered as spacious, looked small. The distance to my school, which had once felt like a great journey, now seemed trivial.
What had happened? When I left Poona, I was 11 years old. Now, I was 21. I had grown taller, and my perspective had shifted. The distances and proportions I held in my mind were relative to my height and understanding as a child.
This experience confirmed a profound truth: what we call reality is shaped entirely by our perception. When I was a child, my world seemed vast. As an adult, returning to that same world, it appeared small and contained. The reality I perceived at 11 was not an absolute truth—it was a reflection of my limited perception at that time.
This realisation extends far beyond childhood memories. It speaks to the very nature of our existence and the limitations we impose upon ourselves. Those who are deluded into believing they are merely their bodies, confined by irrational religious beliefs and paralysed by the fear of defying some ‘heavenly figure’, are trapped in a narrow reality. Their consciousness is limited, their minds blocked by layers of fear, dogma, and superstition.
But imagine if they could step out of these mental prisons—if they could free themselves from the beliefs that restrict their consciousness and their ability to think freely. They would rise above these illusions and delusions, and experience the ultimate truth of their existence: the realisation of their true SELF as subjective awareness, which is formless and, once not mentally limited to the body, is all-pervading.
This is the essence of the awakening journey—transcending the childish beliefs, religions, cults, and sects that confine us, and attaining the highest state of understanding. It is a journey from the narrow confines of perception to the boundless expanses of consciousness.
Take this fascinating virtual flight through space to the end of the observable universe and back. As you do, realise the vastness and awesomeness of existence. Let it inspire you to rise above the illusions that bind you and to reach for that highest state of awareness where the ultimate truth resides, far beyond the constructs of human beliefs.
What if I told you that anger isn’t something to be feared or suppressed, but rather a powerful force that, when harnessed wisely, can drive incredible change in your life?
Well, some people are happy with their lives, not so happy, sad, or even sick of their lives. If everything is going well, and you are happy, just continue doing what you are doing and living the way you are. I don’t propagate the ideas of ‘good and bad’ or ‘right and wrong,’ which I consider dogmatic. Common sense alone tells us that something is good and right if it makes us happy and in no way harms our health, surroundings, nature, or others.
However, many are unhappy, dissatisfied, depressed, weak, or scared and would like to change their lives for the better. For those who genuinely want to make changes, however big or small, here are some steps you might want to follow:
Identifying the Problems
Write down what you don’t like about your current situation, whether it’s your appearance, living circumstances, work, mindset, or any other area of your life. Be as specific as possible. I have given some easy and practical hacks in my video titled ‘Shatter the Cycle: BURN and RESET your Karma!’
Setting Clear Goals
Next, think about what you want to achieve. What does your ideal self look like? How do you want to feel or think differently? Write down these goals so that you have a clear target to aim for. Be absolutely specific and describe your ideal self in detail.
Execution
Once you’ve identified your problems and set your goals, begin outlining the steps or strategies needed to achieve them. This might involve altering your habits, seeking guidance, or acquiring new skills. Concentrate on taking small, manageable actions that will steadily progress you towards your objectives.
By breaking it down into these steps, you’ll have a clearer path to follow, making it easier to track your progress and stay motivated along the way.
Sitting alone, fretting, fuming, or complaining will only lead to self-pity, and that will ensure that your life stays exactly the way it is now, if not worse.
A Personal Story of Transformation
Thirty years ago, during a 48-hour self-imposed retreat, I conceived and meticulously crafted ‘Project KR’, where I defined and redefined exactly how I wanted my life to unfold.
Almost everything I described in Project KR has been happening so far. This includes the realisation of far-fetched aims, such as meeting with Queen Elizabeth II, and many other things that would have seemed impossible at that time.
I must emphasise that the goals and strategies I outlined in my playbook, which I boldly committed to nearly 30 years ago – defying all conventional thought processes and career planning – have not only materialised but have done so with astonishing precision, even in the finer details. Keep in mind, Rhonda Byrne’s ‘The Secret’ hadn’t even been written back then!
Likely Source of My Determination
My determination likely stemmed from the intense anger I harboured due to the wrongs inflicted upon me by others, which I now recognise as a result of my own naïveté or even foolishness. It’s often said that necessity is the mother of invention, and my ‘necessity,’ or rather my overwhelming drive to transform my life, was so powerful that I was able to create possibilities out of seemingly nothing.
The Triple ‘Z’: Zeal, Zest, and Zing
Around the time I embarked on my 48-hour self-reflection, I was teaching French at several management colleges. I closely observed the mindsets of my students, aged 18 to 20. Among them, only a few exhibited a profound, intense drive to set ambitious goals, achieve them, and pursue a more fulfilling life. This further reinforced my belief that not everyone possesses a high level of drive. While this isn’t inherently wrong, it can result in either a lacklustre future or a life devoid of Zeal, Zest, and Zing – qualities I was highly driven to attain and live my life to the fullest, which I had almost lost in some major accidents earlier.
In the biographies of many great individuals I’ve read, one common thread stands out: they never blamed others for their circumstances. Instead, they took full responsibility, charted their own paths, and forged ahead with determination.
Final Thoughts:
Some people write to me saying that they want to improve their lives, looks, happiness, relationships, etc., but are unable to achieve them.
Tavamithram Sarvada 