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Break Free from Emotional Baggage with This Transformative Two-Word Mantra

Are you tired of being stuck in repetitive emotional patterns, haunted by your past, and overwhelmed by regret? This powerful new video dives into a life-changing concept that blends spiritual clarity, emotional resilience, and mental discipline through the use of two deceptively simple yet profound mantras: “So what?” and “What next?”.

Rooted in Vedanta, and enriched by a personal journey of spiritual transformation, this message is a wake-up call for those ready to reclaim their power. Whether you’re on the path of self-inquiry, seeking personal development, or aiming to cultivate a growth mindset, this video offers direct and practical tools to help you move forward.

Let go of self-pity, stop dwelling on the past, and embrace conscious living. The time to transform your inner world is now.

First Achieve and Then Let Go!

Sour Grapes and Self-Pity – Escaping Life’s Responsibilities

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In my journey of counselling and guiding individuals over the last decade through my Tavamithram blog, I have encountered numerous men and women who, after interactions with me, emerged more courageous, fearless, and self-confident. There have been a couple of young women who imbibed the knowledge I imparted so well that they did things requiring extensive courage—actions that would make a regular man think not just twice but three times. However, there are exceptions. Despite receiving extensive personal counselling, some individuals persist in wallowing in self-pity, which is something I always try to nip in the bud. This phenomenon, especially among young men, often manifests as existential rhetoric and disillusionment with worldly pursuits. This certainly does not sound even fundamentally manly to me. CONTINUE READING ON SUBSTACK.

From Stagnation to Success: Mastering Negative Karmic Inertia

Shattering All Blockades in Life

Understanding the Three Gunas: A Path to Self-Improvement

Understanding the three Gunas explained in the Srimad Bhagavad Gita offers profound insights into human behaviour and consciousness. These three fundamental qualities—Sattva (goodness), Rajas (passion), and Tamas (ignorance)—shape our thoughts, actions, and overall life experience. Among these, the Tamasa Guna, which embodies indolence, laziness, lethargy, negativity, and pessimism, often acts as a significant impediment to personal growth and productivity. I refer to this as ‘Negative Karmic Inertia.’

Much like maintaining a good hormonal balance is crucial for physical health, achieving a harmonious balance of the three Gunas is essential for a fulfilling and enriching life. By understanding and managing our Guna levels, we can enhance our self-awareness and work towards self-improvement. The real transformation happens within, even if the knowledge and inspiration come from external sources.

The Role of Tamasa Guna

Excessive Tamas is like a heavy weight that chains a person to the ground, preventing any positive change and perpetuating a state of lethargy and inertia. It not only affects one’s behaviour but also distorts one’s ability to rationalise and make sound decisions. A person overwhelmed by Tamas might find themselves stuck in a cycle of inaction and negativity, unable to break free and achieve their true potential.

The Three Gunas explained in the Bhagavad Gita

The Srimad Bhagavad Gita provides a detailed explanation of the three Gunas and their effects on individuals:

SBG 14:5 – “The three Gunas or qualities are Sattva, which is the quality of goodness; Rajas, which is the quality of passion; and Tamas, which is the quality of ignorance; O mighty-armed one. They are born of Prakriti which is Nature. These qualities bind very fast the immutable embodied Self in the body.”

SBG 14:6 – “Of these, Sattva, which, due to its purity, is luminous and healthy, frees a person of all Karmic reactions. Those of this Guna are attached to knowledge and to happiness, O sinless one.”

SBG 14:7 – “You should know Rajas to be the Guna or nature of passion, which is the source of desire and attachment. O Arjuna, it binds fast to the embodied Self by attachment to action.”

SBG 14:8 – “Tamas is born of ignorance and deludes all embodied beings. O Arjuna, this results in the binding of the embodied soul by negligence, sleep and laziness!”

SBG 14:9 – “O Arjuna, Sattva binds one to happiness, Rajas to action, while Tamas shrouds knowledge and binds one to idiocy.”

SBG 14:10 – “O descendant of Bharata (Arjuna), Sattva prevails over Rajas and Tamas, while Rajas manifests itself by overpowering Sattva and Tamas; and Tamas manifests itself by subduing Sattva and Rajas.”

SBG 14:11 – “When the light of wisdom shines through every sense in this body, it may be known that Sattva is predominant.”

SBG 14:12 – “When greed, endeavour for material gains, restlessness and longing arise; Rajas is predominant, O Arjuna.”

SBG 14:13 – “The presence of illusion, darkness, recklessness and delusion in a person indicate the predominance of Tamas in them, O Arjuna.”

Overcoming Negative Karmic Inertia

Many people struggle with feelings of demotivation and an inability to achieve their goals. This internal blockage often stems from an excess of the Tamasa Guna. Conversely, those driven by an excessive Rajas Guna might find themselves aggressive and even harmful in their pursuit of desires.

Managing Rajas

SBG 3:36-37: Arjuna asks Krishna: What prompts a man to perform sinful deeds, O descendant of Vrshni? Why does he commit such acts even without desiring to do them, as if he were forced?

Shri Bhagavan Krishna replies: Lust and anger are born out of the material nature called Rajoguna, which is insatiable and prompts man to commit sin. You must know that this is the greatest enemy in a man’s spiritual life.

Understanding one’s Guna ratio is akin to a doctor diagnosing a patient: it allows for targeted self-improvement. By identifying and addressing the predominant Guna that is out of balance, individuals can work on the specific areas needed to overcome unwanted situations in life.

Self-Study and Introspection

The path to self-improvement begins with self-study and introspection. Rather than casting blame on external factors, it is crucial to look within and understand the internal dynamics that drive our behaviour. By doing so, we can achieve a harmonious balance of the Gunas, leading to a more pleasant, enriching, and fulfilling life.

Finally, the knowledge of the three Gunas offers a powerful tool for self-awareness and personal growth. By recognising the influence of Tamas and working to balance it with Sattva and Rajas, we can overcome negative karmic inertia and realise our true potential. The journey to self-improvement is an inward one, and the key to success lies in understanding and managing the forces within us.

Reflect on your own Guna ratio, identify the areas that need attention, and take the necessary steps to bring balance and harmony into your life. Embrace the power of self-awareness and let it guide you towards a brighter, more fulfilling future.

If you truly want to change your life, it is you who must change, for the world will not bend to your will.

“Who looks outside dreams; who looks inside awakes.” – Carl Jung

The Metamorphosis of ANGER

The Harmful Effects of Anger: Understanding Its Life Cycle and the Path to Peace

Mark Twain once said, “Anger is an acid that can do more harm to the vessel in which it is stored than to anything on which it is poured.” Anger never solves any problem or worry; rather, it makes us more stressed. It starts controlling our emotions and intelligence, and eventually leads us to self destruction.

To comprehend the full extent of anger’s impact, it’s essential to understand its life cycle. Anger often begins with attachment, a sense of entitlement, or envy. This metamorphosis is eloquently described in the Srimad Bhagavad Gita, Shlokas SBG 2:62-63:

Srimad Bhagavad Gita: 2:62-63 “A person who thinks of sense objects develops an attachment for them. From this attachment, desires are born and from desires, anger is born.
Anger gives birth to delusion and this delusion results in confusion of memory. When memory is confused, intelligence is destroyed, and from the destruction of intelligence, the person perishes.”

SBG 2:62-63

The Metamorphosis of Anger

  1. Attachment: It all begins with the mind dwelling on sense objects. When we repeatedly think about something, we develop an attachment to it.

  2. Desire: From attachment arises desire—the longing to possess or achieve what we are attached to.

  3. Anger: When our desires are unfulfilled or obstructed, anger arises. This anger can be towards oneself, others, or circumstances.

  4. Delusion: Anger clouds our judgment, leading to delusion. We start seeing things in a distorted manner, unable to perceive reality accurately.

  5. Confusion of Memory: Delusion confuses our memory. We forget our principles, values, and past experiences that guide us in making rational decisions.

  6. Destruction of Intelligence: With a confused memory, our intelligence, the ability to reason and discriminate, is destroyed.

  7. Perdition: The final stage is the total destruction of the person. A life led by anger is a life of turmoil, leading to self-destruction.

The Solution: Vedanta

Vedanta offers a profound solution to the problem of anger and other mental afflictions. The Srimad Bhagavad Gita, a cornerstone of Vedanta, provides timeless wisdom to overcome anger and attain peace. By understanding and applying its teachings, we can transform our lives.

The Srimad Bhagavad Gita is the panacea for all mental problems, fears, worries, and confusions that stem from a lack of clarity or emotional thinking. It guides us to live a life of balance, understanding, and inner peace.

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Beyond the Herd: Unmasking the Myths of Group Belonging

Why Tavamithram is Never Aligned to Any Particular Group, Ashram, Agama, Paddhathi, Sects, Subsects, Guru, Swamy, Dress Code, Traditions, Religion etc.

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Throughout my life, I have observed a significant connection between beliefs, the desire to belong to groups, and the thirst for knowledge and self-confidence. My personal attitude has always been to stand alone. It’s crucial to clarify that my reluctance to belong to groups should not be mistaken for hubris. I simply prefer solitude, as my strong ideas often diverge from the majority, who are frequently swept away by traditions—something Krishna himself admonishes even before the conclusion of Chapter 2 in the Srimad Bhagavad Gita.

To illustrate the extent to which I go to avoid belonging to a group, let me share anLeonardo_Phoenix_a_dramatic_highcontrast_cinematic_photograph_3 example from my past. Many years ago, I was a motorcycle stuntman in Indian films, doubling for lead stars and performing death-defying stunts. In the film industry, numerous unions exist for various trades, including actors, directors, make-up artists, dancers, photographers, and others. Naturally, there was also a union for stuntmen, and I was expected to join. However, I refused to be tied down by group membership, choosing instead to remain independent. Consequently, I willingly accepted a penalty of twenty-five per cent of my earnings for not being a member. Despite this, I chose to pay the penalty each time I earned money performing stunts.

I’ve observed that individuals who are rather low on self-confidence or a sense of personal substance usually seek strength in numbers by joining groups. Being part of a group provides reassurance and a sense of belonging. Within these groups, members usually share common beliefs or philosophies, forming the basis of their unity. However, I think that belonging to a group compels individuals to adopt the group’s ideology, limiting their ability to think and act independently. I prefer the freedom to think for myself and analyse matters in my own way. Groups typically consist of like-minded individuals, which signifies a lack of diverse thought. This, in turn, stifles intellectual development and curtails opportunities for new ideas to emerge.

As an ardent learner, I find great fascination in encountering people whose ideas challenge my own, compelling me to think outside the box. This is the essence of personal evolution.

It’s essential to clarify that I do not hold beliefs in the conventional sense; instead, I possess perspectives. I have unwavering trust in my intelligence, intellect, and experiences, considering myself a keen learner in every situation I encounter.

While belonging to a group can provide a sense of security, it can also hinder personal growth and self-discovery. True self-confidence emerges from understanding and standing firm in one’s perspectives, even when they diverge from the prevailing norms of a group. By cultivating self-awareness and introspection, individuals can develop a stronger, more authentic sense of self. I am not suggesting anything against groups; rather, I strongly advocate for retaining one’s freedom to question, think, and express oneself.

Among the most detrimental effects groups can have on intellectual development is the deification of central figures, often referred to as Gurus or Babas. The story of the 24 Gurus of Sage Dattatreya aims to dismantle the false notion of being tethered to a single guru, suggesting that anything and everything that helps dispel ignorance can be considered a guru. To quote Shri Ramana Maharshi: “Your own Self-Realisation is the greatest service you can render the world.”

In Shloka SBG 2:45, Krishna instructs Arjuna: “Vedic literature deals with subjects that fall under the three Gunas. O Arjuna, you should rise above the three, be free from dualities, always remain in Sattva or goodness, and be established in the Self.”

A true teacher should guide individuals to clear their ignorance and advance towards the ultimate goal of Atma-gnyaana, or knowledge of the Self. However, how many truly do this? Many, adorned in flowing robes and sporting long beards, strut about like proud peacocks, claiming to possess all knowledge.

It is indeed disheartening to witness children and youth from families not converted to foreign religions being lured into the illusory world of meaningless beliefs, rites, and rituals.

I conclude this post with Shlokas SBG 4:37 and 38

37: “Just as a blazing fire burns firewood into ashes, O Arjuna, knowledge burns all actions and reactions into ashes.” 

38: “There is certainly nothing more purifying than knowledge. He who is perfect in Yoga finds it in the Self in due course of time.”

May you stay abundantly blessed.


Jai Shri Krishna

Why me – मैं ही क्यों – நான் ஏன்?

Understanding Destiny through the Srimad Bhagavad Gita

Every morning can be treated as a new Janma (birth), carrying forward the thoughts and mindset from the previous day, thus continuing life patterns. Changing one’s life for the better is not difficult if one understands the natural principle of cause and effect and works towards acquiring the knowledge of the all-pervading Self, Brahman, or Krishna. As long as one thinks of Krishna as a separate entity, they will have expectations, which naturally lead to disappointments. Krishna is everywhere, in all beings, and is existence itself. Rise above dualitym accept responsibility and make the necessary course corrections in life. The Srimad Bhagavad Gita clearly states that the path of knowledge is the highest. Check out Shloka SBG 4:37-38.

To illustrate these concepts, I created three videos in three different languages using easy-to-understand analogies. When I made the Hindi video, one of our family members, Mr. Anupam Agarwal helped me in reviewing the Hindi script. Special thanks to him.

Additionally, I offer my latest book, ‘The Ever-Relevant Gita: A Present-Day Rendering’. This book can answer almost all possible questions one might have about destiny, karma, dharma, Krishna, birth, life, and death.

Embracing the Path of Knowledge

It is an irrefutable fact that everyone possesses some degree of a personality trait called narcissism. The degree of narcissism in a person separates a normal individual from someone who needs professional help. Even a small amount of narcissism can push a person towards feelings of entitlement, selfishness, and the typical ‘Why me?’ question. One’s own answer to this question is usually based on self-pity and a sense of being a victim of others, external forces, or misfortune.

People who care to set aside their narcissistic traits, however small and insignificant, and their feelings of victimhood, can find not just an answer to the ‘Why me?’ question but a permanent solution to it.

The following presentation analyses the ‘Why me?’ question, the principle of cause and effect, and ways to carve out a clearer, better, enjoyable, and enriching destiny with the help of teachings from the Srimad Bhagavad Gita.

May peace reign in your heart, mind, and soul, and may your life be blessed with an abundance of Divine Grace.

Jai Shri Krishna

Watch the video in the language of your choice, reflect, and take action.

Fate and Time: The Tragic Story of Mike Lynch

In my latest video, I delve into the poignant and impactful story of Mike Lynch, a man whose life and career were marked by remarkable achievements and profound challenges. Despite his success, Lynch’s life took a tragic turn with his untimely death while on his yacht—a stark reminder of how swiftly fate can alter our course.

In this video, I offer an introspective look at Lynch’s journey, touching on the themes of fate, the passage of time, and the importance of living fully in the present. I explore how Lynch’s story serves as a powerful lesson about the unpredictable nature of life and the significance of embracing each moment with gratitude and responsibility.

Join me as I unravel the elements of Lynch’s life and legacy, and reflect on the crucial lessons we can learn from his experiences. Don’t miss this opportunity to gain insight into how to navigate life’s uncertainties with grace and mindfulness.

The Chrysalis: Change is Inevitable; Evolution is Eternal

Transformation is life’s enduring promise

TRANSFORMATION FUELS THE FUTURE

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Evolution is the natural order of life. Just as a pupa transforms into a beautiful butterfly, everything in nature is in a constant state of change and growth. This transformation is not just necessary but inevitable, driven by the forces of nature to improve, adapt, and thrive.

However, some choose to resist this natural process, clinging to outdated ways of thinking, strange beliefs in the name of religion, lost positions or property, former relationships, and old ways of being. This resistance is a denial of life’s fundamental principle—growth. By refusing to evolve, they remain stagnant, living in a state of delusion. In doing so, they waste the precious resources that nature provides, occupying space without contributing to the flow of progress.

Just as the butterfly’s emergence from its chrysalis is a testament to the power of transformation, so too should we embrace our own potential for growth. To resist evolution is to deny the very essence of life. By choosing to evolve, we not only fulfil our purpose but also honour the natural world that supports us.

Let’s embrace CHANGE, and EVOLVE.

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Anger – your greatest ally?

Harness Your Rage and Redefine Your Reality

TheTriple ‘Z’ 

What if I told you that anger isn’t something to be feared or suppressed, but rather a powerful force that, when harnessed wisely, can drive incredible change in your life?

Well, some people are happy with their lives, not so happy, sad, or even sick of their lives. If everything is going well, and you are happy, just continue doing what you are doing and living the way you are. I don’t propagate the ideas of ‘good and bad’ or ‘right and wrong,’ which I consider dogmatic. Common sense alone tells us that something is good and right if it makes us happy and in no way harms our health, surroundings, nature, or others.

However, many are unhappy, dissatisfied, depressed, weak, or scared and would like to change their lives for the better. For those who genuinely want to make changes, however big or small, here are some steps you might want to follow:

  1. Identifying the Problems

Write down what you don’t like about your current situation, whether it’s your appearance, living circumstances, work, mindset, or any other area of your life. Be as specific as possible. I have given some easy and practical hacks in my video titled ‘Shatter the Cycle: BURN and RESET your Karma!’

  1. Setting Clear Goals

Next, think about what you want to achieve. What does your ideal self look like? How do you want to feel or think differently? Write down these goals so that you have a clear target to aim for. Be absolutely specific and describe your ideal self in detail.

  1. Execution

Once you’ve identified your problems and set your goals, begin outlining the steps or strategies needed to achieve them. This might involve altering your habits, seeking guidance, or acquiring new skills. Concentrate on taking small, manageable actions that will steadily progress you towards your objectives.

By breaking it down into these steps, you’ll have a clearer path to follow, making it easier to track your progress and stay motivated along the way.

Sitting alone, fretting, fuming, or complaining will only lead to self-pity, and that will ensure that your life stays exactly the way it is now, if not worse.

A Personal Story of Transformation

Thirty years ago, during a 48-hour self-imposed retreat, I conceived and meticulously crafted ‘Project KR’, where I defined and redefined exactly how I wanted my life to unfold.

Almost everything I described in Project KR has been happening so far. This includes the realisation of far-fetched aims, such as meeting with Queen Elizabeth II, and many other things that would have seemed impossible at that time.

I must emphasise that the goals and strategies I outlined in my playbook, which I boldly committed to nearly 30 years ago – defying all conventional thought processes and career planning – have not only materialised but have done so with astonishing precision, even in the finer details. Keep in mind, Rhonda Byrne’s ‘The Secret’ hadn’t even been written back then!

Likely Source of My Determination

My determination likely stemmed from the intense anger I harboured due to the wrongs inflicted upon me by others, which I now recognise as a result of my own naïveté or even foolishness. It’s often said that necessity is the mother of invention, and my ‘necessity,’ or rather my overwhelming drive to transform my life, was so powerful that I was able to create possibilities out of seemingly nothing.

The Triple ‘Z’: Zeal, Zest, and Zing

Around the time I embarked on my 48-hour self-reflection, I was teaching French at several management colleges. I closely observed the mindsets of my students, aged 18 to 20. Among them, only a few exhibited a profound, intense drive to set ambitious goals, achieve them, and pursue a more fulfilling life. This further reinforced my belief that not everyone possesses a high level of drive. While this isn’t inherently wrong, it can result in either a lacklustre future or a life devoid of Zeal, Zest, and Zing – qualities I was highly driven to attain and live my life to the fullest, which I had almost lost in some major accidents earlier.

In the biographies of many great individuals I’ve read, one common thread stands out: they never blamed others for their circumstances. Instead, they took full responsibility, charted their own paths, and forged ahead with determination.

Final Thoughts:

Some people write to me saying that they want to improve their lives, looks, happiness, relationships, etc., but are unable to achieve them.

My question to them is, “Who is stopping you?”

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