TheTriple ‘Z’ 

What if I told you that anger isn’t something to be feared or suppressed, but rather a powerful force that, when harnessed wisely, can drive incredible change in your life?

Well, some people are happy with their lives, not so happy, sad, or even sick of their lives. If everything is going well, and you are happy, just continue doing what you are doing and living the way you are. I don’t propagate the ideas of ‘good and bad’ or ‘right and wrong,’ which I consider dogmatic. Common sense alone tells us that something is good and right if it makes us happy and in no way harms our health, surroundings, nature, or others.

However, many are unhappy, dissatisfied, depressed, weak, or scared and would like to change their lives for the better. For those who genuinely want to make changes, however big or small, here are some steps you might want to follow:

1. Identifying the Problems

Write down what you don’t like about your current situation, whether it’s your appearance, living circumstances, work, mindset, or any other area of your life. Be as specific as possible. I have given some easy and practical hacks in my video titled ‘Shatter the Cycle: BURN and RESET your Karma!’

2. Setting Clear Goals

Next, think about what you want to achieve. What does your ideal self look like? How do you want to feel or think differently? Write down these goals so that you have a clear target to aim for. Be absolutely specific and describe your ideal self in detail.

3. Execution

Once you’ve identified your problems and set your goals, begin outlining the steps or strategies needed to achieve them. This might involve altering your habits, seeking guidance, or acquiring new skills. Concentrate on taking small, manageable actions that will steadily progress you towards your objectives.

By breaking it down into these steps, you’ll have a clearer path to follow, making it easier to track your progress and stay motivated along the way.

Sitting alone, fretting, fuming, or complaining will only lead to self-pity, and that will ensure that your life stays exactly the way it is now, if not worse.

A Personal Story of Transformation

Thirty years ago, during a 48-hour self-imposed retreat, I conceived and meticulously crafted ‘Project KR’, where I defined and redefined exactly how I wanted my life to unfold.

Almost everything I described in Project KR has been happening so far. This includes the realisation of far-fetched aims, such as meeting with Queen Elizabeth II, and many other things that would have seemed impossible at that time.

I must emphasise that the goals and strategies I outlined in my playbook, which I boldly committed to nearly 30 years ago – defying all conventional thought processes and career planning – have not only materialised but have done so with astonishing precision, even in the finer details. Keep in mind, Rhonda Byrne’s ‘The Secret’ hadn’t even been written back then!

Likely Source of My Determination

My determination likely stemmed from the intense anger I harboured due to the wrongs inflicted upon me by others, which I now recognise as a result of my own naïveté or even foolishness. It’s often said that necessity is the mother of invention, and my ‘necessity,’ or rather my overwhelming drive to transform my life, was so powerful that I was able to create possibilities out of seemingly nothing.

The Triple ‘Z’: Zeal, Zest, and Zing

Around the time I embarked on my 48-hour self-reflection, I was teaching French at several management colleges. I closely observed the mindsets of my students, aged 18 to 20. Among them, only a few exhibited a profound, intense drive to set ambitious goals, achieve them, and pursue a more fulfilling life. This further reinforced my belief that not everyone possesses a high level of drive. While this isn’t inherently wrong, it can result in either a lacklustre future or a life devoid of Zeal, Zest, and Zing – qualities I was highly driven to attain and live my life to the fullest, which I had almost lost in some major accidents earlier.

In the biographies of many great individuals I’ve read, one common thread stands out: they never blamed others for their circumstances. Instead, they took full responsibility, charted their own paths, and forged ahead with determination.

Final Thoughts:

Some people write to me saying that they want to improve their lives, looks, happiness, relationships, etc., but are unable to achieve them.

My question to them is, “Who is stopping you?”