My Top 7 Life Strategies

Grasping life’s fundamental truths often takes years, causing many to look back with regret, wishing they had learned these lessons sooner. By adopting these seven Life Strategies, you can navigate your journey with greater confidence and fulfilment, avoiding the pitfalls that others have encountered. Embrace these principles now to set yourself on a path toward a more successful and enriching life.

If you’re in your early twenties and take the time to study and internalise these strategies, you’ll save yourself a great deal of time and effort in your pursuit of a fulfilling life.

1. Take Responsibility for Your Actions

Stop blaming others and start taking full responsibility for your actions. You alone are accountable for your decisions. Owning up to your actions empowers you to make positive changes and steer your life in the direction you want.

Example: If a project at work doesn’t succeed, instead of blaming your team, reflect on what you could have done differently and use that knowledge to improve future projects.

2. Select Your Life Partner with Thoughtful Consideration

Choosing your spouse is one of the most crucial decisions you’ll ever make. A good partner brings joy and support, while a poor choice can lead to unhappiness. Never decide in a hurry or when under pressure. Friedrich Nietzsche wisely advised, “When marrying, ask yourself this question: ‘Do you believe that you will be able to converse well with this person into your old age? Everything else in marriage is transitory.'”

Example: Imagine spending your life with someone who shares your interests and values, and with whom you can have deep, meaningful conversations. This is the foundation of a lasting and fulfilling marriage.

3. Embrace Lifelong Learning

Don’t let financial constraints hold you back from investing in your career development. The internet is full of resources offering vast opportunities for learning and growth. While degrees can be valuable, they don’t solely define your knowledge, wisdom, or capabilities.

Example: Many successful entrepreneurs have used online resources to learn new skills like coding, digital marketing, or design, and have built thriving businesses without formal education in those fields.

4. Adopt Gradual and Consistent Learning for Deeper Understanding and Full Internalisation.

Take your time to learn slowly, carefully, and steadily. By doing so, you’ll realise that you have the ability to achieve anything. Don’t let others discourage you. Give things a go and be prepared to fail before conceding defeat prematurely.

Example: Consider training for a marathon. At first, the goal may seem overwhelming, but by committing to a steady, incremental training plan, you build endurance and confidence over time. Each small, consistent effort contributes to your overall progress, transforming a seemingly insurmountable challenge into an achievable accomplishment. Similarly, learning a new skill or mastering a subject takes persistent, gradual effort, leading to profound understanding and success.

5. Develop the Habit of Investing and Understand the Power of Money

Start investing as early as possible. The earlier you begin, the more time your investments have to grow, providing you with financial security and freedom. Many of life’s problems can be alleviated with money. Financial stability provides the means to address challenges and seize opportunities. While money doesn’t buy happiness, it reduces stress and grants you the freedom to pursue your passions and goals.

Example: Starting an investment account with a small monthly contribution in your 20s can lead to significant savings by the time you reach retirement age, thanks to compound interest. Having a financial safety net can help you handle unexpected expenses like medical bills or car repairs without falling into debt or significant stress.

6. Don’t Let Regrets Hold You Back

Regrets are unproductive. Instead of dwelling on what could have been, focus on making the most of the present. Every moment spent regretting is a moment lost that could be used for positive action and growth.

Even if you’ve faced deep pain or significant losses, ask yourself, “So what?” followed by “What next?” and focus on your next steps. The past is gone and will never return, but it can sabotage your future if you allow it.

Example: Imagine you regret not taking a chance on a business idea years ago. Instead of ruminating on missed opportunities, redirect that energy into launching a new venture now. Research your market, develop a solid plan, and connect with potential mentors or investors. By focusing on actionable steps, you turn regret into motivation and create new possibilities for yourself.

7. Sleep on Important Decisions

Before making an important decision, take a pause and avoid deciding immediately. Instead, let it sit overnight. This brief delay allows you to gain clarity, giving you time to weigh the pros and cons thoughtfully, rather than being driven solely by emotions or excitement.

Example: If you receive a job offer, take a night to think it over. This allows you to assess the offer with a clear mind and make a well-considered decision.

By internalising and practising these seven strategies, you can navigate life with greater confidence, resilience, and fulfilment. Remember, the journey is just as important as the destination, so embrace each step with an open mind and a determined heart.

From Frustration to Fulfilment

The Essential Guide to Overcoming Life’s Unfavourable Situations

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Breaking Free from the Cycle

Many of us find ourselves stuck in a cycle of complaining, brooding, and feeling generally dissatisfied with our circumstances. Whether it’s our job, relationships, or personal achievements, the tendency to ruminate on what’s wrong can be overwhelming. And yet, despite the temporary relief we might find in venting to a friend or relative, we often wake up the next day only to repeat the same routine, with nothing having changed. The question then arises: how can we expect change when we continue to do the same thing?

The Unproductive Cycle of Complaints

Complaining and brooding are natural human responses to dissatisfaction. It’s almost instinctual to express our frustrations when things don’t go as planned. However, these actions rarely lead to meaningful change. Instead, they often serve as a temporary release, a way to momentarily ease the pressure without addressing the underlying issues. As a result, we remain stuck in the same unfavourable situation, repeating the cycle day after day.

To break free from this cycle, it’s crucial to take a different approach—one rooted in clarity and action. The key lies in defining your problems and goals with precision. Let me take you back to my childhood to illustrate this point.

As a young boy, I was naturally curious and had a mechanical aptitude that drove me to understand how things worked. I was always eager to get to the bottom of things, refusing to accept anything at face value without clear evidence. When I was reprimanded by elders or teachers for my behaviour, I didn’t just accept the scolding. Instead, I wanted to know what I had done wrong and, more importantly, what I should do right. However, my requests for guidance were often met with silence or a cold stare, leaving me with unanswered questions.

This experience taught me a vital lesson: in any situation, if something is wrong, it’s essential to ask, “What is right?” This principle can be applied to any area of life:

  1. If you’re dissatisfied with your job, ask: What is my ideal job?
  2. If you don’t like your life, ask yourself: What would my ideal life look like?
  3. If you’re unhappy in a relationship, ask: What is the ideal relationship I want?

The Three-Step Approach to Change

Once you’ve asked these questions, the next step is to define your situation clearly. Here’s a practical approach:

  1. Identify What You Don’t Like and Why: Be specific about what bothers you. Is it the long hours at work, the lack of appreciation, or perhaps a feeling of being stuck? Understand the root cause of your dissatisfaction.

  2. Create a Clear Vision of What You Want: Visualise your ideal situation in detail. What does your perfect job look like? What qualities define your ideal relationship? Be as specific as possible, down to the finest details.

  3. Develop a Plan to Achieve Your Vision: Identify the steps you need to take to move from your current situation to your ideal one. This might involve learning new skills, making lifestyle changes, or even having difficult conversations. The key is to take actionable steps that lead you closer to your goal.

The Danger of Temporary Fixes

Many people, when faced with an unfavourable situation, seek quick fixes to ease their minds temporarily. Whether it’s pouring out your woes to a friend, closing your eyes and sitting under a tree or in a religious place, or even turning to substances, these methods offer only momentary relief. They don’t address the core issues and often lead to more frustration when the problem inevitably resurfaces.

Please always remember that if someone truly wants something, they will find a way to get it. Consider alcohol and substance addicts or those addicted to gambling—they always manage to obtain what they crave. If you feel you’ve been working hard with no improvement in your life, instead of adopting a victim or ‘poor me’ attitude, try to view it from another perspective. Perhaps your efforts are insufficient, misdirected, or lack proper direction.

Summing up and Learning to Take Control of Your Life

If you’re unhappy with your current situation, don’t waste time complaining or seeking temporary distractions. Instead, follow the steps I’ve outlined:

  1. Define your issue clearly.
  2. Visualise your ideal situation.
  3. Take actionable steps to achieve your vision.

By doing so, you’ll find that you have the power to transform your life into something truly fulfilling. These steps may seem simple, but they are profoundly effective—I speak from experience.

Never forget that many people don’t know exactly what they want. Complaining and feeling depressed require less effort than reflecting and strategising, which is why slipping into self-pity is so easy. For anything good and positive to materialise, there must first be a clear image in the mind. So, the next time you feel the urge to complain or brood, make sure you know exactly what you want.

Real change begins with a clear definition of your goals and a commitment to taking action.

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Anger – your greatest ally?

Harness Your Rage and Redefine Your Reality

TheTriple ‘Z’ 

What if I told you that anger isn’t something to be feared or suppressed, but rather a powerful force that, when harnessed wisely, can drive incredible change in your life?

Well, some people are happy with their lives, not so happy, sad, or even sick of their lives. If everything is going well, and you are happy, just continue doing what you are doing and living the way you are. I don’t propagate the ideas of ‘good and bad’ or ‘right and wrong,’ which I consider dogmatic. Common sense alone tells us that something is good and right if it makes us happy and in no way harms our health, surroundings, nature, or others.

However, many are unhappy, dissatisfied, depressed, weak, or scared and would like to change their lives for the better. For those who genuinely want to make changes, however big or small, here are some steps you might want to follow:

  1. Identifying the Problems

Write down what you don’t like about your current situation, whether it’s your appearance, living circumstances, work, mindset, or any other area of your life. Be as specific as possible. I have given some easy and practical hacks in my video titled ‘Shatter the Cycle: BURN and RESET your Karma!’

  1. Setting Clear Goals

Next, think about what you want to achieve. What does your ideal self look like? How do you want to feel or think differently? Write down these goals so that you have a clear target to aim for. Be absolutely specific and describe your ideal self in detail.

  1. Execution

Once you’ve identified your problems and set your goals, begin outlining the steps or strategies needed to achieve them. This might involve altering your habits, seeking guidance, or acquiring new skills. Concentrate on taking small, manageable actions that will steadily progress you towards your objectives.

By breaking it down into these steps, you’ll have a clearer path to follow, making it easier to track your progress and stay motivated along the way.

Sitting alone, fretting, fuming, or complaining will only lead to self-pity, and that will ensure that your life stays exactly the way it is now, if not worse.

A Personal Story of Transformation

Thirty years ago, during a 48-hour self-imposed retreat, I conceived and meticulously crafted ‘Project KR’, where I defined and redefined exactly how I wanted my life to unfold.

Almost everything I described in Project KR has been happening so far. This includes the realisation of far-fetched aims, such as meeting with Queen Elizabeth II, and many other things that would have seemed impossible at that time.

I must emphasise that the goals and strategies I outlined in my playbook, which I boldly committed to nearly 30 years ago – defying all conventional thought processes and career planning – have not only materialised but have done so with astonishing precision, even in the finer details. Keep in mind, Rhonda Byrne’s ‘The Secret’ hadn’t even been written back then!

Likely Source of My Determination

My determination likely stemmed from the intense anger I harboured due to the wrongs inflicted upon me by others, which I now recognise as a result of my own naïveté or even foolishness. It’s often said that necessity is the mother of invention, and my ‘necessity,’ or rather my overwhelming drive to transform my life, was so powerful that I was able to create possibilities out of seemingly nothing.

The Triple ‘Z’: Zeal, Zest, and Zing

Around the time I embarked on my 48-hour self-reflection, I was teaching French at several management colleges. I closely observed the mindsets of my students, aged 18 to 20. Among them, only a few exhibited a profound, intense drive to set ambitious goals, achieve them, and pursue a more fulfilling life. This further reinforced my belief that not everyone possesses a high level of drive. While this isn’t inherently wrong, it can result in either a lacklustre future or a life devoid of Zeal, Zest, and Zing – qualities I was highly driven to attain and live my life to the fullest, which I had almost lost in some major accidents earlier.

In the biographies of many great individuals I’ve read, one common thread stands out: they never blamed others for their circumstances. Instead, they took full responsibility, charted their own paths, and forged ahead with determination.

Final Thoughts:

Some people write to me saying that they want to improve their lives, looks, happiness, relationships, etc., but are unable to achieve them.

My question to them is, “Who is stopping you?”

Treat Insults and Setbacks as ‘ROCKET FUEL’

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