What if I told you that anger isn’t something to be feared or suppressed, but rather a powerful force that, when harnessed wisely, can drive incredible change in your life?
Well, some people are happy with their lives, not so happy, sad, or even sick of their lives. If everything is going well, and you are happy, just continue doing what you are doing and living the way you are. I don’t propagate the ideas of ‘good and bad’ or ‘right and wrong,’ which I consider dogmatic. Common sense alone tells us that something is good and right if it makes us happy and in no way harms our health, surroundings, nature, or others.
However, many are unhappy, dissatisfied, depressed, weak, or scared and would like to change their lives for the better. For those who genuinely want to make changes, however big or small, here are some steps you might want to follow:
Identifying the Problems
Write down what you don’t like about your current situation, whether it’s your appearance, living circumstances, work, mindset, or any other area of your life. Be as specific as possible. I have given some easy and practical hacks in my video titled ‘Shatter the Cycle: BURN and RESET your Karma!’
Setting Clear Goals
Next, think about what you want to achieve. What does your ideal self look like? How do you want to feel or think differently? Write down these goals so that you have a clear target to aim for. Be absolutely specific and describe your ideal self in detail.
Execution
Once you’ve identified your problems and set your goals, begin outlining the steps or strategies needed to achieve them. This might involve altering your habits, seeking guidance, or acquiring new skills. Concentrate on taking small, manageable actions that will steadily progress you towards your objectives.
By breaking it down into these steps, you’ll have a clearer path to follow, making it easier to track your progress and stay motivated along the way.
Sitting alone, fretting, fuming, or complaining will only lead to self-pity, and that will ensure that your life stays exactly the way it is now, if not worse.
A Personal Story of Transformation
Thirty years ago, during a 48-hour self-imposed retreat, I conceived and meticulously crafted ‘Project KR’, where I defined and redefined exactly how I wanted my life to unfold.
Almost everything I described in Project KR has been happening so far. This includes the realisation of far-fetched aims, such as meeting with Queen Elizabeth II, and many other things that would have seemed impossible at that time.
I must emphasise that the goals and strategies I outlined in my playbook, which I boldly committed to nearly 30 years ago – defying all conventional thought processes and career planning – have not only materialised but have done so with astonishing precision, even in the finer details. Keep in mind, Rhonda Byrne’s ‘The Secret’ hadn’t even been written back then!
Likely Source of My Determination
My determination likely stemmed from the intense anger I harboured due to the wrongs inflicted upon me by others, which I now recognise as a result of my own naïveté or even foolishness. It’s often said that necessity is the mother of invention, and my ‘necessity,’ or rather my overwhelming drive to transform my life, was so powerful that I was able to create possibilities out of seemingly nothing.
The Triple ‘Z’: Zeal, Zest, and Zing
Around the time I embarked on my 48-hour self-reflection, I was teaching French at several management colleges. I closely observed the mindsets of my students, aged 18 to 20. Among them, only a few exhibited a profound, intense drive to set ambitious goals, achieve them, and pursue a more fulfilling life. This further reinforced my belief that not everyone possesses a high level of drive. While this isn’t inherently wrong, it can result in either a lacklustre future or a life devoid of Zeal, Zest, and Zing – qualities I was highly driven to attain and live my life to the fullest, which I had almost lost in some major accidents earlier.
In the biographies of many great individuals I’ve read, one common thread stands out: they never blamed others for their circumstances. Instead, they took full responsibility, charted their own paths, and forged ahead with determination.
Final Thoughts:
Some people write to me saying that they want to improve their lives, looks, happiness, relationships, etc., but are unable to achieve them.
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Karma Hacks
The concept of karma, often misunderstood or shrouded in superstition, is essentially about the patterns and outcomes in our lives that are heavily influenced by our own attitudes, actions, and reactions. Here’s a simplified breakdown of how Karma functions and impacts our lives and even those of our descendants:
Today, I want to share an interesting incident that occurred yesterday after I posted about “Ma ka doodh.” I have been counselling a good old friend of mine for some time, and he has been experiencing positive changes in his life.
My friend, who happens to be a meat consumer, wasn’t particularly pleased with my post, and he promptly sent me a message expressing his feelings. Now, I must admit, our viewpoints on this topic have always been divergent, and this post seemed to strike a sensitive chord for him. Nevertheless, since he is someone who values detailed explanations and wants to reread them, I took the time to compose a thoughtful reply.
Today, I decided to share my response publicly, albeit while protecting his real identity. I am doing it because I think it might be beneficial to others who face similar challenges when discussing contrasting beliefs. It’s a story of emotional reactions versus intelligent discussions, and I hope it provides valuable insights to those who find themselves in similar situations.
In my response, I reflect on a past incident where my friend’s reaction to one of my earlier posts was emotion-based. However, after we engaged in a conversation, he grasped the essence of my message. Similarly, in his recent message, I noticed that he reacted without fully comprehending what I wrote and without watching the film ‘Ma ka doodh,’ which I had recommended in the post.
Throughout my life, I have always been passionate about learning, and I have passed on this attitude to my son as well. Learning, for me, is an exciting journey, and I embrace any opportunity to expand my knowledge. Consequently, when someone points out my mistakes and proves them, I am genuinely grateful because it means I have gained new insights. To be honest, I am eternally grateful to all those who might have ridiculed, insulted, or even publicly belittled me because what they did worked as great causes of reflection in me and also functioned as booster rockets in my life and career. Do you remember my post ‘Treat Insults and Setbacks as ‘ROCKET FUEL?
To be honest, I am eternally grateful to all those who might have ridiculed, insulted, or even publicly belittled me because what they did worked as great causes of reflection in me and also functioned as booster rockets in my life and career. Do you remember my post ‘Treat Insults and Setbacks as ‘ROCKET FUEL?
In this message, I delve into the idea of human evolution and how embracing change and growth is essential. I stress the importance of questioning beliefs, conducting thorough research, and making informed decisions rather than blindly accepting ideas. As I often say, there’s no absolute right or wrong; there are only causes and effects. It is always the outcomes that determine whether an action is right or wrong.
I highlight the significance of living the life of a responsible soul, thinking about the consequences of our actions, and aligning them with our desired results. It’s about being conscious of what we consume, both physically and mentally, and making responsible choices.
In conclusion, I urge my friend to ponder upon these ideas and consider looking beyond traditional beliefs. I believe that embracing knowledge and critical thinking can lead to a deeper understanding of oneself and the world around us. Blind faith may foster divisive ideologies, but open-mindedness can pave the way for harmony and growth. Unlike in many organised religions, nowhere in the Srimad Bhagavad Gita does Krishna ask Arjuna to BELIEVE in Him. In Shloka SBG 18:63, Krishna says: “I have taught you the secret wisdom, which is deeper than all that is confidential and profound. Reflect fully on what I have declared to you, and do what you wish to do.”
I present my response to my friend to all of you with the hope that it inspires meaningful conversations and encourages self-discovery. As I share my thoughts, I offer my sincere gratitude to the teachings of the Srimad Bhagavad Gita, which have enriched my perspective and whole life.
Thank you for taking the time to read this. Let us all embark on a journey of continuous learning and evolution.
Stay Blessed.
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My message to my friend:
Dear friend,
do you remember that one time when I wrote something about Tamil and your response was based on emotion? Later, when we spoke, you understood what I meant. Similarly, in yesterday’s post, you read it and reacted immediately. In fact, I had already addressed all your questions in my post, even before you asked them. However, you reacted without fully comprehending what I wrote, and also without watching the two-hour film I promoted through my post.
I’m sorry to say that yours was an emotional reaction and not an intelligent one. It was the result of a typical human tendency to defend or attack when one is told that what they have been doing or what they believe in is wrong.
In my case, I must say that learning is my passion, and I have instilled the same attitude in my son. He is doing very well because he’s thrilled to learn anything and everything. If someone points out my mistakes and proves them to me, I’m only too happy because it means I’ve learned something new.
That’s why I have great respect for people who have insulted or degraded me in the past. They taught me things about myself that I didn’t know.
You asked me in your message if what people have been doing since time immemorial is wrong, I say, “Yes, they are incorrect, at least in today’s scenario!” Asking questions and learning is what I call human evolution. We all evolve, don’t we? Your daughter and grandchildren being smarter than you is a sign of progress, and you should be proud of it. If they’re not, it indicates something might be wrong with your parenting or their growth.
In my post, I have clearly said that I’m not an expert, but all I stress is that before you do something or believe something, do your research, study, figure things out for yourself, and then take action. There’s no absolute right or wrong; there are only causes and effects. It’s only up to the effects to determine whether something was right or wrong.
Therefore, before taking any action, consider the consequences. If you want a specific result, make sure your actions align with that goal. Yesterday, I was surprised by your impulsive reply; I thought you had become calmer and more peaceful. Your reaction might indicate that there was some misunderstanding because I had already provided answers to your questions in the post.
Have you thought about what the cow, whose milk you drink, was fed and injected with yesterday? Or what was injected into the chicken you ate last week? Do you know what the fish you consume, ingested from the ocean? Did you ever care to find out how poultry farms are run and the hazardous measures they take to make the chicken weigh more and appear fat to its consumers? It’s essential to be aware of these things, at least for the sake of your health and that of your loved ones.
I aim not to preach or enforce my beliefs upon you; rather, I am merely sharing my ideas. I urge you to engage in independent thinking and conduct thorough research on your own. It is crucial for everyone to safeguard themselves against blind belief systems, as they have been responsible for the proliferation of violent religions, cults, and sects, and the emergence of fraudulent figures like fake babas such as some bearded beef-eating ones, and self-proclaimed ‘divine ammas.’
Furthermore, I suggest that you ask questions and discover on your own. Haven’t I supported my arguments with relevant Shlokas from the Srimad Bhagavad Gita?
Tavamithram Sarvada 